The 4,000 Week Wake-Up Call

Okay, let’s talk about how the book Four Thousand Weeks has given me all the feels. My husband recommended this book to me, and I’ve been listening to it on Audible while darting from wedding to wedding these past two months. It’s like my life’s soundtrack right now—weddings, business, and the ticking clock of life in my ear. I have a lot of goals I aspire to (I’m sure if you’re here, you do too), and I have to constantly curb the anxiety that can come with being an overachiever. Good thing I’m The OG Chillzilla and have a few tips up my sleeve to keep the chill vibes through it all 😉

The premise of the book? We have around 4,000 weeks to live. That’s it.

When I first heard this, I felt said anxiety levels start to crank up ::deep breaths:: I’m over here trying to manage a thriving business, travel plans, my recovery, and, oh yeah, actually live my life! Suddenly, I was hit with that “get stuff done” urgency—but not in the way you’d think.

Instead of pushing me to go full throttle in every direction, Four Thousand Weeks taught me something super valuable: we can’t do everything. And you know what? That's okay. The key is to figure out what really matters and focus on that. Because, let’s face it, half the stuff on our to-do lists doesn’t actually move the needle in life or business.

This is what I teach my chillpreneurs:

1. You Can’t Do It All

Forget trying to check off 20 tasks a day. Prioritizing what truly matters has been a game-changer for me and my clients. Whether it’s spending time with loved ones, working with brides who light me up, or building meaningful client relationships, I’ve learned to focus on the essentials and what’s not in my heart’s alignment.

2. Set Boundaries, Babe

If you’re constantly saying “yes” to everything, when are you saying “yes” to yourself? After my car accident this summer, I physically couldn’t overcommit myself, so even though it killed me to say “no,” it taught me it’s “ok” to say so.

3. Quality Over Quantity

This applies to everything—from the way I approach my work to how I spend my time outside of it. I’m all about diving deep into what I’m passionate about.

4. Embrace the Imperfect, It’s More Fun Anyway

Spoiler alert: perfection isn’t real. I’ve spent too long thinking I had to be perfect in business, but Four Thousand Weeks reminded me that striving for “perfect” wastes precious time. Instead, I’ve been focusing on doing my best, making real connections, and accepting that sometimes things go wrong—and that’s okay.

5. Live Life Now, Not Later

It’s easy to get caught up in thinking we’ll enjoy life after we reach certain goals or finish certain projects. Nope. The book has drilled me that there’s no “later.” This is it—life is happening now.

So, yes, I’m still hustling, but I’m also making sure to laugh, travel, and take breaks that actually feel like breaks.